Pick Me, Choose Me!

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What Job Hunting Teaches Us About Human-Centred Design—and How to Stay Bright in the Search

You might remember the classic Grey’s Anatomy moment—Meredith Grey, vulnerable yet direct: “Pick me. Choose me. Love me.” It’s iconic. And for anyone who’s job hunting today, oddly relatable.

The search can feel like a loop of uploading CVs into the void, taking AI-screened assessments, and whispering your hopes into one-way video interviews. And in the middle of all that, a skilled, motivated, very human person is just hoping for... connection.

But what if we paused for a moment—and looked at this challenge through a facilitator’s lens?

The Job Search Is a System—And Systems Can Be Facilitated

At Facilitator Lab, we talk a lot about designing for clarity, alignment, and flow. Well, job hunting is a process crying out for better design. It’s a system of interactions (often misaligned) between individuals and organisations. And at every step, there's potential to bring back humanity, transparency, and intention.

The pain points job seekers feel aren’t just emotional—they're also structural. They're the result of systems that weren’t designed with people in the room. This is where facilitation can change the game—for both candidates and companies.

Facilitation-Inspired Tips for Job Seekers

Even if you’re not the one designing the process, you can influence your own experience. Here's how facilitation methods can help you stay centred, strategic, and visible:

🔹 Create Your Own Clarity

Facilitators don’t wait for perfect information—they make workable clarity from ambiguity. Do the same with job ads. Decode what's really being asked. Highlight how your impact connects to their goals. Speak to their needs in your language.

🔹 Design Your Story Like a Workshop

You wouldn’t run a session without a clear structure. Don’t send your CV without one either. Frame your experience with intention. What are your “aha!” moments? What outcomes can you replicate? What kind of “room” do you thrive in?

🔹 Use Bridge Language

In facilitation, we help groups connect across silos. You can do the same with your applications. Translate niche experience into universal value. Show how your adaptability, systems thinking, or empathy fits any context.

🔹 Build Real Dialogue

Where possible, seek conversations—not just transactions. Whether it’s a message to a recruiter, a post on LinkedIn, or a portfolio piece—think "engagement over broadcasting." Even small dialogue opens doors.

🔹 Hold the Space (For Yourself)

One of the hardest parts? Staying motivated. But facilitators know: energy matters. Build in breaks, reflection moments, and rituals to celebrate small wins. Light doesn’t disappear in the dark—it’s just waiting to be seen again.

And for Employers: Facilitation Can Transform Hiring

If you're a leader or recruiter reading this, here's the invitation:

• Design hiring with humans in mind.

• Use facilitation tools like journey mapping, empathy interviews, and feedback loops.

• Treat candidates like collaborators in your brand story—not just data points.

Because when we make the process clearer, warmer, and more intentional, we don’t just hire faster—we hire better.

Let’s Bring the Light Back

If you’re job hunting, take heart. This isn’t just a numbers game—it’s a human game. And while the system may be digital, your value is deeply personal.

So yes, you might feel like you're whispering "pick me, choose me" into the ether. But know this:

You’re not invisible.

You’re navigating complexity with courage.

And your light, when it’s finally seen, will be impossible to ignore.

🟡 At Facilitator Lab, we believe systems should serve people—not the other way around. Want to explore more human-centred ways to work, hire, and grow? Let’s talk.www.facilitatorlab.net